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Coworker has been angsting this week because she ordered a Doctor Who costume for her young daughter and when it came, was shocked that it was a plus size women's costume. Ok, I can see maybe when she ordered it, she clicked on the wrong adult vs kid link.

No, nope, she ordered it here...from TORRID. For those of you not chunkily-inclined, all that they sell is adult plus sized women's wear aimed at the younger hip generation. She got it in a size 0-0 thinking it would be just right for her elementary-school, average-sized nine year old child. Just...what? Since when is 0-0 a kid's size and if you were shopping online and yes, that picture of that obviously larger, adult woman came up, how the hell would you think you're buying a kid's costume?

According to the coworker, she wasn't aware that Torrid is a plus size shop. I could excuse that if she were older but she's several years younger than me. Also, I could excuse that if she weren't a plus-size woman, but alas, the coworker is a plus-size woman in deep denial. She shops at Kohl's and Macy's and I know for a fact that she refuses to venture into the plus section there either. I've been with her at Kohl's. The largest that she will dare buy is size XL in the regular section, not even XXL and it's cringe-worthy because at work, she'll have tops stretched tight across her stomach and she'll have her pants unbuttoned under them - and it'll show.

She lives in the past and can't accept that she's now big. Not just big but it really does look like she's still 8 or so months pregnant. Her past pictures show that she was non-plus size until she had kids and her youngest is at least four, I think. She also will go on "diets" (and I use that word loosely) for at most a week and whine and complain about how it's awful to eat healthy. Or she'll do things like lose a few pounds and then will reward herself...with fatty food. She'll sneak out to "run errands" and will claim she's being good (no, we don't ask about it) and I've walked past the trash in the hall to see empty Popeye's containers. She's also had hernia surgery and also had a kidney infection scare and still denies that it has anything to do with her weight.

Sad, really. I mean I know I'm not one to talk about eating healthy but at least I admit that I have a problem and that it's my fault and my responsibility to do something about it. I also buy clothing that fits properly. 



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Oct. 19th, 2018 10:04 pm (UTC)
Looking at the page and around the site, I don't see anything that would really qualify as a Halloween costume. The long coat with Tardis pattern lining is obviously just an adult fan-thing and way too expensive for a once and done kid's costume. It doesn't even remind me of Dr. Who.

Instructions for costume I would have had at age 9: Get large carton that fits over kid, almost to feet. Cut holes for arms and for front facing windows and staple fine mesh screen on inside of windows to hide identity while allowing vision. Paint outside of carton with blue poster paints to resemble TARDIS. Mold a little aluminum foil around arm holes to make more finished look. Attach an old camping lantern on top of carton, or make lantern with construction paper and more aluminum foil. Kid wears blue sleeves that match TARDIS to make it look better. Poster painting arms not recommended, but probably what I would have done.
Oct. 22nd, 2018 10:35 am (UTC)
She isn’t sensible nor craftily inclined enough to make a costume. Evidently she did find a kids version somewhere finally and paid some ungodly amount of money for it 🙄
Oct. 20th, 2018 12:59 am (UTC)
Wow, with the plethora of cool kids costumes available online or those party superstores why would you buy a Halloween getup for a child on a adult clothing e-tailer?

Most of my Halloween costumes were cardboard or crepe paper, and always worn over a heavy jacket. Sure we looked silly but no one's parents went into debt over a getup that won't fit in a year.
Oct. 22nd, 2018 10:36 am (UTC)
Elaine isn’t the brightest bulb in the box lol
Oct. 20th, 2018 04:43 am (UTC)
I do not understand the mindset of people who won't buy clothing that fits, because it means "admitting" that they are not the size they expect/want to be?

It cannot possibly be comfortable to wear pants that don't button up and shirts that tight?

Certainly you can have *aspirational* pants that you are determined to fit into and use as a reminder to eat better? But in the meantime you gotta wear something that fits?

Oct. 22nd, 2018 10:37 am (UTC)
This exactly. I have some clothing that currently doesn’t fit that I’ll save since I need to lose weight for my health. But in the meantime, there’s no sense torturing myself.

If she thinks wearing uncomfortable clothing will somehow inspire her to lose weight, she’s been failing at that for several years now.
Oct. 20th, 2018 06:08 am (UTC)
Clothing not fitting properly can lead to health issues, too, alas... :(

Oct. 22nd, 2018 10:38 am (UTC)
I’m wondering if it contributed to the kidney infection she got recently...
Nov. 27th, 2018 11:35 pm (UTC)
That definitely wouldn't help! Restrictive clothing in such sensitive areas can cause massive health issues!
Oct. 20th, 2018 08:27 pm (UTC)
You could be describing one of my older sisters w. the too small clothing and the diets and rewarding herself w. something fatty. Not seen her in several years (she reunited w. one of her exes who was in prison for several years for sexual abuse of his then 11 year old step-daughter. We're a family of girls, more aunts, more nieces, and more great nieces than boys. 15 grands and 4 are boys. The family voted and said no.)

It was amusing yet sad to see her perform and say "oh, I hardly eat these days" right before consuming half a chicken and sides. A few times her jeans were so tight the fabric split. And she had to have had chaffing going on.

One of my peeves is clothing that does not fit but esp too tight. It can not be comfortable w. things binding and pulling and ppl aren't fooling anyone when they go out looking like a sausage in casing. Having Myofascial disorder and sensitive skin makes me more aware of how clothing feels and rubs, may make me more aware of seeing ppl stretching the boundaries as I know it would irritate me to no end.
Oct. 22nd, 2018 10:40 am (UTC)
I don’t get that mindset at all. Ain’t fooling anyone with eyes that can see the extra girth.

I can’t stand tight clothing either. I especially despise jeans at all because even if they fit, the metal button digs into the crease in my stomach and it hurts
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