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Family Scandal: Karma Comes to Play

So, when last I mentioned, I sent a message on Ancestry to someone that may have been a half-sibling to my aunt but NOT my mom. Never heard back, alas.

Last night, though, Mom got the skinny on some details about her sister and what she's been up to. We haven't heard from the nasty woman in years, thankfully. Before I reveal that, let me give you a brief example of this woman's loveliness. For one, my Mom is actually afraid to be alone with her because she thinks her sister would hit her. When I found that out, I told Mom to make sure I'm there. Because Aunt Pat puts one finger on Mom and I'll clock a bitch. Second example: years ago her son, my cousin Mark, was staying with us. We almost had him weaned from the insanity and he was attending a branch of Ohio State in our town. Well unfortunately he was driving their family car and my sister was a passenger and an old couple turned too slow in front of them and there was a wreck. My sister smashed the windshield with her head (fortunately no serious injuries) but unfortunately the old people in the other car were taken away by ambulance. Pat knew the details before she came down to retrieve her son.

I wasn't there but I'm sure that the story is accurate as it is much like many other times with Pat. She breezes into my family's house and dramatically says "So how IS everyone?" of which my sister, sitting there with an ice pack on her head says. "Well, I'm ok but my head hurts." Pat whirled and said nastily to her "Your head couldn't hurt NEARLY as bad as mine. My car is wrecked. I hope those old people die!" I think one of them may have. I don't recall.

So, back to the present. According to some cousin of Mom's, she actually got a call from Pat and got some details about her life out in Idaho. Pat followed her daughter and their family out there (no, they didn't want her there) and at some point they moved away but Pat stayed behind. By some circumstances she ended up homeless and then someone stole all her stuff before she met some guy while homeless and evidently now they're married and living together.

I'd feel badly for the homelessness and the theft but well...karma. Wish death on people for a stupid car accident and bad things will come back to bite you.


( 13 comments — Something to say? )
Nov. 29th, 2018 04:20 pm (UTC)
Wow. It sounds to me as if she might have schizophrenia or something similar undiagnosed. You're well rid of her and I hope she gets help.
Nov. 29th, 2018 04:22 pm (UTC)
More like Trump-quality narcissism.

It's interesting that she didn't think to try to call my parents during her issues. They've had the same phone number for over 45 years. Glad she didn't, though.
Nov. 29th, 2018 04:37 pm (UTC)
Narcissistic personality disorder, schizophrenia, could be any number of disorders. It definitely sounds like something's amiss. If she won't get help, there's not much her family can do and you need to protect yourself from toxic personalities.
Nov. 29th, 2018 11:24 pm (UTC)
She picked up the torch of being a cold, calculated, manipulative abuser from her mother yet it was my mom and dad and mom’s half brother that cared for my mean-spirited grandmother, never my aunt. No, my aunt waited for my half uncle to move grandma into the stroke center the Pat broke in to my grandmothers home and stole most of her possessions.

If my aunt chooses to get psychiatric treatment so her daughter and grandkids have anything to do with her, that’s up to her. But I nor my parents have any sympathy for an abuser that always knew what she was doing. There were no bouts of mania or uncontrolled rage, no lapses of memory, no hallucinations.
Nov. 29th, 2018 05:24 pm (UTC)
What a disgusting, ugly beast of a person.

She is definitely now sleeping in the bed she made.
Nov. 29th, 2018 11:26 pm (UTC)
She is and I hope she never tries to darken my parents doorstep or I’ll have Emily watch my kitties and I’ll drive the 9+ hours to Ohio to kick her out on her bony butt
Dec. 5th, 2018 03:17 pm (UTC)
And that, is why I <3 you.
(If I could, I'd make that trip with you. I'm tiny but I am still a force to reckoned with when protecting friends/fam...)
Nov. 29th, 2018 06:50 pm (UTC)
What goes around comes around.
Nov. 29th, 2018 11:28 pm (UTC)
Yep. She has always been completely self centered and terrible. If she’s happy with the guy she married out there and stays out of our lives, fine by us.
Nov. 30th, 2018 11:44 am (UTC)
Sounds like me with my brother's son and daughter. As long as they stay far, far away, I'm happy.
Nov. 29th, 2018 07:32 pm (UTC)
Your Aunt Pat sounds disturbingly like my paternal grandmother of loathed memory. I recommend avoidance.
Nov. 29th, 2018 11:29 pm (UTC)
Sadly Aunt Pat got her attitude from her mother. My mom always vowed not to be like either one of them and she never has been
Dec. 1st, 2018 07:15 pm (UTC)
I'm glad your mom doesn't feel like she *has* to have contact with her sister out of familial obligation - sounds MUCH healthier to just stay away!
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