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Insecurities like whoa...

Coworker Elaine...who is currently typing in her office but I'm sure that will only last a few minutes before she comes out and starts yammering again (Shuuuuuuut uuuuuuup!) felt the need to tell me the story of how her kid said last night that she doesn't look like Elaine (I've seen pictures, yeah, they're spitting images) and that she doesn't want to.

It sounds harsh but I have no intention of feeling sorry for Elaine because of how I know she talks about herself all the time and she confirmed that she talks the same way in front of her small kids. Right after the supposed bombshell of the kid saying that, her (frankly idiotic) reply to her small daughter is "Well I didn't always look like a jelly donut...ugly."

I gave her this look



and replied with  "Why are you saying you're ugly? More importantly, why are you telling her that?" She didn't answer that and changed the subject but JC on a Triscuit, way to parent. Woman, you need therapy. Do I think I'm pretty? Well, eh, maybe not "pretty" but I certainly don't think I'm "ugly" just because I have a gut I need to do something about FOR MY HEALTH. Also, you're giving your kid a complex and you should feel badly about THAT and stop bitching about how you look in front of your kids. Do you want to give them an inferiority complex and/or a full fledged eating disorder? Because that's exactly how that shit starts.

Also, if you think you're "ugly" because you have some extra pounds after popping out three kids, then do something sensible and healthy and slow about it (she's a fad dieter too when she can be bothered) because you've already had hernia surgery and it's already popped back out. Your health should really be the only reason for trying to do something about your weight.

Girl got issues. 

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amethyst_witch
Jan. 23rd, 2019 02:54 pm (UTC)
Major issues.
People aren't ugly but you know what is ugly?? That display of "parenting". -_-
Made me sad. Kids are little sponges and she is doing that one no favours...
If she's a fad dieter then that is the first sign she's a moron, though, so I wouldn't waste too much of my breath on her.

And shutup! You are so pretty <3
missdiane
Jan. 23rd, 2019 03:01 pm (UTC)
Re: Major issues.
She seems to be one of those people that either didn't have to diet when she was younger because she was naturally slimmer or if she did, had an easier time of it. It's like she has no clue how to eat appropriately and she thinks it's funny to complain when I mention getting something "healthy" for lunch (gee, because fried foods make my stomach sick).

Hell, on our website, she made them put up a photo of her that's probably at least 10 or more years old. Like people haven't seen her in person and know that's bullshit? How insecure and ridiculous.

Daww, thanks. Not fishing for compliments, though. ;) I want to be a little smaller so I'm healthier but other than that, I think I look...well..."fine" insofar as looks.
amethyst_witch
Jan. 24th, 2019 04:53 am (UTC)
Re: Major issues.
Most people I know (sadly) have no clue how to eat properly--and they are always the ones to complain LOUDLY about their (self inflicted) health woes -_-

That is sad about the 10 year old photo :( She sounds like a deeply insecure person. I hope she finds some confidence, especially for her daughter's sake.

I know you weren't ^_^ it's still true tho <3 I wish you much luck on achieving your health goals <3
missdiane
Jan. 23rd, 2019 03:05 pm (UTC)
Re: Major issues.
Oh, she's also been whining for YEARS about turning 40 and guess what? She turns 40 this summer and her BOSS and I are planning a New Orleans style funeral for it. We may have our AA Julie make a coffin-shaped cake
amethyst_witch
Jan. 24th, 2019 04:54 am (UTC)
Re: Major issues.
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA OMG!! TAKE PHOTOS!! XD
amethyst_witch
Jan. 23rd, 2019 02:54 pm (UTC)
And I love the gif--perfect *lol*
missdiane
Jan. 23rd, 2019 03:01 pm (UTC)
Olivia Benson is lyfe
amethyst_witch
Jan. 24th, 2019 04:54 am (UTC)
Totally
60megawatts
Jan. 23rd, 2019 04:33 pm (UTC)

Parents using their kids for validation is such cringe, esp when the parent is sacrificing their child's self image for some compliments. Sad. Your frustration is totally understandable

missdiane
Jan. 23rd, 2019 04:41 pm (UTC)
Agreed and thank you.

She's like this with her work as well. Her group deals with assisting faculty in going for grants/contracts. It's SO cringeworthy when I'm nearby overhearing meetings with these faculty since she spends an embarrassing amount of time talking about herself and her accomplishments rather than focusing on their needs. She's so desperate for validation on every front that it's exhausting (she also talks pretty much nonstop all day which thank goodness she's at an external meeting right now so I can get some work done LOL)
spikesgirl58
Jan. 23rd, 2019 06:51 pm (UTC)
She needs to think about what her responses are saying to her daughter. Not helping!
missdiane
Jan. 23rd, 2019 07:06 pm (UTC)
This is a woman that if she does something "selfless," she has to brag ad nauseum about it. No more self awareness than a dog licking its ass in public
spikesgirl58
Jan. 23rd, 2019 07:42 pm (UTC)
Oh, dear, that doesn't sound good at all.
veganhothead
Jan. 23rd, 2019 10:42 pm (UTC)
Women like her should not breed.
missdiane
Jan. 25th, 2019 02:41 pm (UTC)
She is driving me insaaaaaane today. I'm the only other person in the suite because her boss and the student worker are off so she won't SHUT THE FUCK UP.
sidhe_uaine42
Jan. 25th, 2019 03:22 am (UTC)
Fad dieters remind me of Karen Carpenter. I think that you may remember what happened to her.

By the way, I believe that her comments on her daughter could be considered abuse, but don't quote me here.
missdiane
Jan. 25th, 2019 02:40 pm (UTC)
It wouldn't even get a sniff from child services. Thankfully the kids are more attached to their stay-at-home dad (he's a disabled vet).

She's such an overcompensator for all of her multitudes of insecurities that it's tedious as hell. I can't even imagine even living with her. Her boss isn't in today so she's doing to drive me EFFING INSANE with her constant self-involved babbling.

If she keeps it up, I'm going to put on headphones.

Mind, she's an extrovert that has said she thinks there's something wrong with introverts since we don't want to say...drive people up the wall by being up in their business 24/7. Yeah, WE have the issues. Sure, babe.
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